Some traps when trying to use positive thinking style

The victim:
You have a feeling that you do not control your life yourself, but it is controlled by someone from outside. Especially this is used to happen in adverse events, which just happens but you feel you just have to let it happen. And for positive events, you may see is as a "pure luck" that the good thing happened. Anyway, you feel there is no idea to do anything but be passive. We can still do not control the future and not get past obstacles.

Yes, but ...:
Your answers to all possible solutions is "yes, but" because of a myriad reasons why it proposes, can not and will not work.


Exercise to try:
Write your negative thoughts, thoughts that are so automatic that you no longer even thinks about them.
Do the same with your positive thoughts and try to find them and actually dare to write them up. Opposition to see the positive things in yourself tends almost to be more than to see the negative things.

And finally: anything can happen at any time!

Begin today

Beginner´s mind means to see everything as you were looking at it the first time.

The richness of the present moment is the greatest gift of your life. Our thoughts on what we already know, often obscuring the view to see things as they actually ARE. Without any bias. We use to take everything for granted and thus fail to see much of reality. The unique is the everyday life. If you see everything as if you saw it for the first time, you can suddenly see things that you have not seen before, even if they've been there. Every moment is a unique opportunity to experience something new or experience present in a new way. Do you see things and people around you as they really are or you see them only as reflections of your thoughts? If we do not trouble us, we see everything like we have always seen and then we do not see the reality. If I get angry so probably it's about something in the person’s behavior that has made me angry at some point. But if I see all these things in new ways, see the man as he is, maybe I no longer have any reason get upset because of his / her behavior, people are just like they are and it's not for me to change this . What I can change is my own way of seeing it.