The power of your thoughts

The feelings that the situation I described before, when meeting a person on a street, arouses in you, depends entirely on how you see yourself and how you feel at that moment. Often we do interpret the situation seeing it from our own poit of wiev and when doing so we do not take into account that you can never actually know what the other people think.

The reaction to the other's behavior depends on the story we tell ourselves, the internal discussion within us that constantly interpret what we see and hear. If you do not feel good when the situation occurs, you probably interpret it as that the other person deliberately ignores you, he doesn´t want to see you. That is probably your inner monologue telling that. However, if you feel well that day, you might think that the other person probably did not see you because he was sunk in his thoughts or something like that. Yet, this is about exactly the same situation, it's just your inner voice, which acts as a critic or as a friend and informs you what to feel.

Since this works like this it should of course be perfectly possible to determine what the inner voice, or "old man in the machine" may issue. If your answer is no, it means you can not choose what you think of ... right?

Remember: your thoughts are your thougths and only thoughts, not a reality, and you are the one who is controlling your own thinking!

Mndfulness is not good only for depressive and stressed persons

Everyone can get benefits from mindfulness, regardless of age, sick or healthy. You can prevent depression and you are not caught up on a sense of sadness, trying to take place in your mind if you use mindfulness thinking style.
This is possible because you are trying to develop an attitude, patience and compassion for yourself, be gentle with yourself. You will not solve any problems, like trying to not feel bad and it's OK not to do so. You allow you feel bad but you change your thougths about feeling bad.
We are all different and it can take some time to discover how mindfulness meditation works. But the only way to know is to start practicing it now and continue doing it. Although it would seem that nothing happens, it will happen something in your mind, sooner or later.

So why should you wait?

Pain

If you, in the middle of your pain look up to the pure presence, if you only do this for a brief moment it is possible that your relationship with the pain changes in that particular moment. It is impossible that it would not be altered, because by keeping it in mind, even if you only manage to do it one or two seconds, the pain is revealed immediately in larger dimensions. When your relationship to the experience changes you can think outside the box and act more freely in any given situation, what ever it may be ... even if you do not know what to do...

The pain itself is not the main thing, it is how you relate to it.

Tired of feeling bad

There is no such thing as a slight depression, but if you get into a depression, it will hurt. It's hard to say if it hurts in the body or soul because sometimes you can feel the mental pain as a bodily pain. Grubb country "in the hour of the wolf" is nothing you want to experience again and again. Nor is the anxiety that comes at the same time. When you feel that way, you feel like you can do anything, just to escape the misery, you just want it to stop sometime. When you are trying to find a meaning to it all, you usually end up in self-destructive thoughts, and you feel that there is something wrong with you.

But maybe it is not something wrong with you... there is nothing at all wrong with you? The error is that you have fallen into a cycle where you trying to make you feeling worse, to drag you down to deeper into the depression marsh.

Some research has proven that; that is how it all works. This research also gives us a totally radical new vision of why we fall into depression or chronic depression:

1st: When we are falling into a black hole , in the very early stages of this downward spiral, it is not the mood that makes the worst damage, but how we react to it.

2nd Our usual way of trying to get us out of a depression is in fact counterproductive, it is not working, not at all, but instead turning us into the suffering we are trying to escape.

It is here that mindfulness-thinking comes to use....

Every day is a Journey

...and The journey is home. This quote tells it all, where ever you are, you are at home. That is what mindfulness is, the message of Zen Buddhism, only this and nothing more. Sounds too simple? It does, I think anyway, because I know that it is not so easy just to stay in existence, where you are just now and .... Do what? Consider what you see if you see it through different glasses, glasses that do not stain the surroundings, not larger or smaller, but also shows just what can be seen.

It is not as easy in real life as it seems when you read the text, specially if you feel bad. And sometimes you are feeling bad and at that particular moment, it does not help thinking like that. But in the long run, it can be, and it is helpful.

I will continue to refer to a lot of books and, if necessary, I have all the references.

Now a little exercise;

Imagine that you are walking along a familiar street. ... You see someone you know on the street ... You smile and wave ... The other one does not respond ... he seems not to notice you ... he just goes, passing you without showing any signs to recognize you.

* What emotions are brought within you?
* What thoughts or images are passing through your mind?

Think about this for a while and give me an answer.